Just Give Me A Reason

i recently heard this song, Just Give Me a Reason, by pink and nate ruess (lead singer of fun) and instantly liked it because of the catchy beat. I have my suspicions that the nate ruess wrote the music, and possibly the lyrics, but for sure the music because it has that pull that many of fun's songs have for me. "some nights," "carry on," and even "we are young" each have that pull, but upon reading the lyrics to those songs, they are somewhat depressing. their overall messages are of not believing in love, moving on from those who have hurt you, and being young-making stupid (abusive) mistakes. each of these similar to my earlier post I "think" I want to marry you.

i was even more happy when the lyrics are about a relationship, and the common mis-haps that occur and the couple fixes them and becomes stronger for it. i would say that the roles in the song are typical, but they can be switched between the man and woman. here you have love at first site, both willing to do anything for the other. compliments and bending over backwards to help the other succeed. then, as time passes, doubts enter the minds of one or both people. as the doubts creep further and further, there is still that deep love for the one you have sacrificed for that holds you to the relationship. the love that has "been written in the scars on [their] hearts." the doubts are still lurking and cause one to burst in front of the other. the other is confused somewhat by the outbreak and trys to calm the fears of the first by explaining his side of the story. he explains that he has noticed a slight distance between them, but they both need to hold on, there just needs to be a small reason, a simple thing...love. when anger, doubt, sadness, frustration, etc. come along, "just give me a reason, just a little bit's enough," a single reason of how i love you, and we can mend our bent love to be whole again.

we each cope differently in our relationships with people. hopefully, we feed our excessive energy into a good habit such as running, writing, or manual labor. sometimes we do something with the intention in our mind as saving the other person from harm, such as not saying anything after a fight, to make sure you don't say anything you will regret. unfortunately your intentions can be read wrong by the other and seen as an attack, or a closing off. an innocent joke to lighten the mood could be seen as not taking a situation seriously. we can be blinded by our own fears and worries, enough to not look at the perspective of the one we love.

but when we do, it is just like nate sings at the culmination of the song, "no nothing is as bad as it seems," and pink sings, "we'll come clean." we will explain both of our sides, and then walk away from the situation together realizing that "we are not broken, just bent and we can learn to love again. it's in the stars, it's been written in the scars on our hearts, that we're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again."

my question to each of you is this: what does it mean to you when they sing "it's been written in the scars of our hearts?" i have my own thougts, but am interested in yours.