Marriage has been an ideal concept in the worlds history. Whether it be women planning their weddings, their flowers, their dresses. Men planning on providing for their wife and children, buying a house, repairing the car. These are a few things that come along with marriage.
This is not even mentioning the "L" word....yes, Love. Unfortunetly, in our society, is becoming more and more acceptable, and even expected, for marriages to fail. In a recent lecture, we were informed that most people create the vows that they give thier spouse when married. Many of these no longer even say "in sickness and in health....till death do us part," but now say "till love do us part." This is assuming that love is its own entity and can come magically into our lives and at its own desire can leave. This false love is what is guiding our sense of marriage. It is propegated by Disney, "chick flicks," action movies, and especially by music.
How often do you hear the phrase, "I don't really like the words, but the beat gets me going!" when refering to music? I am an avid runner, and I'll admit that I say that sentence frequently. The beat of the music does affect my pace and when running a race, this can be the difference between a personal record and a "fun run."
But let's be honest, whether it is conscious, or subconscious (which could be debated at a separate time whether there we actually have a subconscious), our minds understand the message the lyrics are portraying.
I came to the conclusion this evening that I don't like the words to Bruno Mars' "Marry You" lyrics. It is all about this false love. Not only is it contriving this false love, but its disparaging marriage as some whimsickle "dumb [thing] to do."
The saddest part is when Bruno sings, "If we wake up and you / Wanna break up, that's cool / No, I won't blame you / It was fun, girl"
What happened to being married for eternity, or at least "Till death do us part?" Is that too "ideal" now? No longer a modern concept? Our society has also moved into a much more selfish idea of, "Well, what will this do for me?"
A main contributing force to this way of thinking is the media that we consume.
I agree Kevin. That song has always bothered me because of the way he acts like marriage is just a fun thing to do for a short period of time. It is so sad that society thinks this way and is willing to make relationships with the notion that if its hard or we don't want to be involved any more we can just break up and move on.
ReplyDeleteThat is such a good point! I need to listen more carefully to words of songs. Song lyrics have a subtle but powerful way of communicating morals. Thanks!
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